O Love, what power!
As I sit here in my bed with my Operations Management book resting comfortably in my lap, I have begun to wonder one simple thing: Is love really that powerful? Before I continue, let me say one thing, I really do feel for those who have never experienced love. Furthermore, I feel even worse for those who have had a chance for love slip away. But is not every relationship a chance at love? The answer is maybe. However, is every relationship, when given the chance, a shot at love? The answer is a resounding "Yes."
See, we as humans tend to overthink things sometimes. Tend to not give credit where credit is due. Or, tend to underappreciate the little things. Think of the times you spent with the one you cared about instead of "going out with the boys." Or the time you slept over when she was really sick - knowing full well you would most likely be sick by morning. Or the time you picked up his favorite snack or dessert from the store just because you cared. See, these are the little things. The little things that are apparent in loving relationships. Sure, that is not all of it, but its undeniable presence is what helps set it apart from ordinary relationships.
It's the fact that these "little things" are done without prejudice, anticipation of reward or extended thought. It becomes more or less second nature (like chivalry to some of us or tying your shoe). This cannot be found in every relationship - nor can it be created or forced. And this is what you miss. Sure, you can get affection, dedication, friendship, and time together from most any relationship. You know, the big things. But once you have that love, that real love, once, it's hard to stop thinking about.
Before I knew love, I hadn't the slightest what it really meant - let alone what it felt like. However, it changes you, molds you, envelops you. It becomes a part of you. And as I continue to mature and grow older, I know that a relationship without love is lacking serious substance. By no means am I saying give up on it if it is not there, but its presence alone is a wonderful thing.
You know, sounds kinda strange coming from a guy eh? Heh, well I'm just one of the few willing to speak what so many men think. I used to always disagree with those who said, "You will never forget those you loved." I will say my stance on that has changed...you don't. Of course, you move on and close the chapter. But, you don't forget the feeling. Why? Because it is so hard to find.
Your feelings may change about the ones you once loved, but your desire for a need to be loved will never be extinguished. My appropos aphorism of the day:
"Refrain from taking things for granted, because you never know when they will pass away. Grab opportunities when they present themselves, for they may not stay. Cherish those who cherish you, for life is short and full of sorrow. And do not hesitate to tell people how you feel about them, because they may not be there tomorrow."
See, we as humans tend to overthink things sometimes. Tend to not give credit where credit is due. Or, tend to underappreciate the little things. Think of the times you spent with the one you cared about instead of "going out with the boys." Or the time you slept over when she was really sick - knowing full well you would most likely be sick by morning. Or the time you picked up his favorite snack or dessert from the store just because you cared. See, these are the little things. The little things that are apparent in loving relationships. Sure, that is not all of it, but its undeniable presence is what helps set it apart from ordinary relationships.
It's the fact that these "little things" are done without prejudice, anticipation of reward or extended thought. It becomes more or less second nature (like chivalry to some of us or tying your shoe). This cannot be found in every relationship - nor can it be created or forced. And this is what you miss. Sure, you can get affection, dedication, friendship, and time together from most any relationship. You know, the big things. But once you have that love, that real love, once, it's hard to stop thinking about.
Before I knew love, I hadn't the slightest what it really meant - let alone what it felt like. However, it changes you, molds you, envelops you. It becomes a part of you. And as I continue to mature and grow older, I know that a relationship without love is lacking serious substance. By no means am I saying give up on it if it is not there, but its presence alone is a wonderful thing.
You know, sounds kinda strange coming from a guy eh? Heh, well I'm just one of the few willing to speak what so many men think. I used to always disagree with those who said, "You will never forget those you loved." I will say my stance on that has changed...you don't. Of course, you move on and close the chapter. But, you don't forget the feeling. Why? Because it is so hard to find.
Your feelings may change about the ones you once loved, but your desire for a need to be loved will never be extinguished. My appropos aphorism of the day:
"Refrain from taking things for granted, because you never know when they will pass away. Grab opportunities when they present themselves, for they may not stay. Cherish those who cherish you, for life is short and full of sorrow. And do not hesitate to tell people how you feel about them, because they may not be there tomorrow."
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