When will people ever learn?
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So I was watching Justice League on Sunday (which has recently become one of my fave cartoons), and it was an episode where Green Lantern got seriously injured while HawkGirl could do nothing but watch helplessly as he lay unconscious. Tension mounted, fingernails were bitten, and the anticipation in the air could be cut with a knife. As Green Lantern appeared dead, HawkGirl, struggling to maintain her composure, uttered these famous words that many people have the unfortunate circumstance of saying, "I cannot believe I almost lost you without saying..."
Well well, doesn't this sound all-too familiar?
Why must people wait til dire circumstances arise before their most personal feelings are revealed about someone they care about? I have not met a girl in my life that has been able to say totally and whole-heartedly what she really feels all the time without holding back. Ever. Some ignorant people may think we are "digging" for something or "overanalyzing," but I would strongly disagree with them and cite the following as reasons why they don't fully express themselves (even some of my opponents will agree that they have used/or agree with some of the following reasoning). This is what I hear from talking to other friends of mine...
1) "I don't want to rush things."
2) "I don't know how he/she feels about me."
3) "I don't want to be hurt [like I was in the past]."
4) "I want to wait and see how things develop before I spring that on him/her."
5) "I want clues to make sure the other is feeling me the same way first."
6) "It will just complicate things."
You know what those are? Excuses. And that is one thing I am hearing a lot of lately. Why not man up and express yourself? Stop holding back. Hell, some of you claim that as a strength. But where is it? Show me. I see no such thing. Better yet, show that special someone. There is no guarantee that your beau/friend/whatever will be there tomorrow for you. Next hour. Hell, next second. Tomorrow is promised to no one, so stop thinking you are owed another day. Newsflash: You aren't. No one is.
Why must people wait til a near-death experience (by either themselves or their friend/family member/whatever) before they admit their true feelings? Why must an ex or close friend wait until the other moves or appears to be with someone else before they admit what everyone, including him/her, knew all along? Hmm.. Why wait til all hope seems lost? As a way to say what you felt days and weeks ago? Who is to say they will fall into your laps and say, "Wow, that changed everything. Now I feel the same way..."
HawkGirl got lucky. Green Lantern didn't die. He totally recovered. And while he laid on the "hospital" bed, she confessed her feelings to him. But I have had instances in my life (and from what other friends have told me) where people wait too late. Sure, they think they were just in time, but time and I moved on. Whether you believe in fate, the Furies, God, or whatever, YOU are in control of your destiny. And you have free will. Exercise what you were blessed with. Stop waiting. You have so much to lose and little to gain if you stay on the sidelines. The sad thing is that most people don't realize what they had til it is gone..You know, til the water runs dry. Appreciate it now, act now, and be proactive.
There is no guarantee that he/she will be waiting idly by when and if you do decide to take some action.
So I was watching Justice League on Sunday (which has recently become one of my fave cartoons), and it was an episode where Green Lantern got seriously injured while HawkGirl could do nothing but watch helplessly as he lay unconscious. Tension mounted, fingernails were bitten, and the anticipation in the air could be cut with a knife. As Green Lantern appeared dead, HawkGirl, struggling to maintain her composure, uttered these famous words that many people have the unfortunate circumstance of saying, "I cannot believe I almost lost you without saying..."
Well well, doesn't this sound all-too familiar?
Why must people wait til dire circumstances arise before their most personal feelings are revealed about someone they care about? I have not met a girl in my life that has been able to say totally and whole-heartedly what she really feels all the time without holding back. Ever. Some ignorant people may think we are "digging" for something or "overanalyzing," but I would strongly disagree with them and cite the following as reasons why they don't fully express themselves (even some of my opponents will agree that they have used/or agree with some of the following reasoning). This is what I hear from talking to other friends of mine...
1) "I don't want to rush things."
2) "I don't know how he/she feels about me."
3) "I don't want to be hurt [like I was in the past]."
4) "I want to wait and see how things develop before I spring that on him/her."
5) "I want clues to make sure the other is feeling me the same way first."
6) "It will just complicate things."
You know what those are? Excuses. And that is one thing I am hearing a lot of lately. Why not man up and express yourself? Stop holding back. Hell, some of you claim that as a strength. But where is it? Show me. I see no such thing. Better yet, show that special someone. There is no guarantee that your beau/friend/whatever will be there tomorrow for you. Next hour. Hell, next second. Tomorrow is promised to no one, so stop thinking you are owed another day. Newsflash: You aren't. No one is.
Why must people wait til a near-death experience (by either themselves or their friend/family member/whatever) before they admit their true feelings? Why must an ex or close friend wait until the other moves or appears to be with someone else before they admit what everyone, including him/her, knew all along? Hmm.. Why wait til all hope seems lost? As a way to say what you felt days and weeks ago? Who is to say they will fall into your laps and say, "Wow, that changed everything. Now I feel the same way..."
HawkGirl got lucky. Green Lantern didn't die. He totally recovered. And while he laid on the "hospital" bed, she confessed her feelings to him. But I have had instances in my life (and from what other friends have told me) where people wait too late. Sure, they think they were just in time, but time and I moved on. Whether you believe in fate, the Furies, God, or whatever, YOU are in control of your destiny. And you have free will. Exercise what you were blessed with. Stop waiting. You have so much to lose and little to gain if you stay on the sidelines. The sad thing is that most people don't realize what they had til it is gone..You know, til the water runs dry. Appreciate it now, act now, and be proactive.
There is no guarantee that he/she will be waiting idly by when and if you do decide to take some action.
posted by TJ Keepin' It Real at
10:54 PM
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