Playing hard to get can make it hard to win...
So I was having a conversation with a female friend of mine yesterday and she wondered what I thought about women playing hard to get (we have discussions like this on a regular basis). Me, being someone who very much enjoys discussing things of this nature, shall now address the issue at hand...
First off, I agree that most guys welcome a challenge in a female. There seems to be this drive to conquer the unconquerable and vanquish the invincible. Much satisfaction is drawn from attaining something that was hard to achieve in the first place. However, due to the way some females just naturally act, and with others sheer ignorance and immaturity, some girls like to interpret that "drive" in an unhealthy, extreme, and self-defeating way.
For instance, say a guy likes you (with "you" being female). Now, you like this guy too or are at least interested, but you want to play hard to get. Now, let us break this down...One of two things will happen. He either a)Notices your playing hard to get and is turned on by it or b)he is turned off by it because he knows he likes you and your playing hard to get is adverse to trying to cement things and is giving off signs that you are not interested. Wait. Stop. He likes you and you like him. Why on earth would you gamble that he pick a) and not b) when the latter is just as much a course of action and reaction as the former? Why complicate something that is not complicated? Why try to break something that is already fixed?
Sure, some guys are turned on by the "hard to get" little game. Yeah, they want what they seemingly can't have--and that is a thrill to them. Yet others get turned off by that and associate that "hard to get" with disdain and a sense that the female is difficult, does not know what she wants, immature, and is not as interested--which can easily and quickly lead that guy to look elsewhere.
So what are my two cents on the issue? I can't stand women who play hard to get. You either want someone and go after it, or you don't. Don't make something harder when it is unnecessary. And don't complain if he does not fall for your game--I certainly would not. Playing hard to get is a sign that you are willing to complicate something that already can't afford complications. It is a sign of immaturity and an unwillingness to be straightforward without the bull. Get your act together, grow up, and leave the foolish games behind. All you are doing is increasing the chances of someone you like end up leaving you for someone else. And if you were genuinely interested in the guy in the first place, I doubt that you would want him to do just that. That would be defeating the purpose now wouldn't it?
First off, I agree that most guys welcome a challenge in a female. There seems to be this drive to conquer the unconquerable and vanquish the invincible. Much satisfaction is drawn from attaining something that was hard to achieve in the first place. However, due to the way some females just naturally act, and with others sheer ignorance and immaturity, some girls like to interpret that "drive" in an unhealthy, extreme, and self-defeating way.
For instance, say a guy likes you (with "you" being female). Now, you like this guy too or are at least interested, but you want to play hard to get. Now, let us break this down...One of two things will happen. He either a)Notices your playing hard to get and is turned on by it or b)he is turned off by it because he knows he likes you and your playing hard to get is adverse to trying to cement things and is giving off signs that you are not interested. Wait. Stop. He likes you and you like him. Why on earth would you gamble that he pick a) and not b) when the latter is just as much a course of action and reaction as the former? Why complicate something that is not complicated? Why try to break something that is already fixed?
Sure, some guys are turned on by the "hard to get" little game. Yeah, they want what they seemingly can't have--and that is a thrill to them. Yet others get turned off by that and associate that "hard to get" with disdain and a sense that the female is difficult, does not know what she wants, immature, and is not as interested--which can easily and quickly lead that guy to look elsewhere.
So what are my two cents on the issue? I can't stand women who play hard to get. You either want someone and go after it, or you don't. Don't make something harder when it is unnecessary. And don't complain if he does not fall for your game--I certainly would not. Playing hard to get is a sign that you are willing to complicate something that already can't afford complications. It is a sign of immaturity and an unwillingness to be straightforward without the bull. Get your act together, grow up, and leave the foolish games behind. All you are doing is increasing the chances of someone you like end up leaving you for someone else. And if you were genuinely interested in the guy in the first place, I doubt that you would want him to do just that. That would be defeating the purpose now wouldn't it?
posted by TJ Keepin' It Real at
12:20 PM
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